If you’ve been scrolling through social media lately, you’ve probably noticed the flood of dorm drop-off pictures, packed cars, and emotional “off to college” posts. And if your child isn’t taking that path, it might feel like your family’s missing out on a big rite of passage.

But here’s the truth: you’re not missing out and your child is on a path that’s just as worthy of celebration. Some kids head straight to work, some enroll in trade school, some take time to figure things out — and all of those choices hold value. As parents, we get to champion their courage, their independence, and their willingness to forge their own way.

Non-College Paths After High School Deserve Celebration

Society often puts a college degree on a pedestal. But fulfillment and success don’t live inside a single option. Trades, certifications, businesses, or gap years can be just as meaningful — and in many cases, just as lucrative. When your child chooses differently, it doesn’t mean they’re “falling behind.” It means they’re building a life they’ll love. And isn’t that what we all want for our kids?

Real Paths, Real Wins

Trade schools & apprenticeships: From plumbing to culinary arts to medical imaging, these programs offer hands-on training, faster entry into the workforce, and solid earning potential.

Going straight to work: Early independence builds resilience, responsibility, and practical life skills.

Entrepreneurship: Starting a business, no matter the size, teaches grit and ownership.

Taking time: A gap year can help kids breathe, explore, and figure out what’s next without rushing into something that doesn’t fit.

Military service: Enlisting is a courageous choice that brings discipline, structure, and purpose. It’s a path that asks a lot of our kids — and of us as parents — and it deserves to be honored just as much as any other milestone.

Each of these paths deserves recognition — and yes, even a celebratory post if you want to share one.

How We, as Parents, Can Celebrate Anyway

It’s easy to feel quiet or even hesitant about celebrating non-college milestones. But our kids need us to cheer just as loudly. Here’s how:

• Shift the focus: Celebrate certifications, first paychecks, new skills, and milestones outside the classroom.

• Keep conversations positive: Ask with curiosity, not comparison.

• Mark the moments: A special dinner, a heartfelt letter, a small gathering — these affirmations matter.

• Encourage lifelong learning: Remind them that education doesn’t end with high school. Every skill gained is a building block.

Walking Proudly, Even Without the Hashtag

Your child’s journey may not look “Instagram official,” but it is deeply meaningful. By recognizing their steps — big and small — you show them that success isn’t about fitting into one mold. So while the college-bound kids are moving into dorms, you can just as proudly celebrate your child. Different doesn’t mean less. Different means theirs — and that’s something to champion.

For the Parents Sending Kids Off to College (or the Military)

And if you’re a parent who has just dropped your child off at college, or entering boot camp, you may be navigating a different kind of transition — the quiet house, the strange pace of different routines (and fewer dishes), the bittersweet “new normal.” That deserves honoring, too. Whether you’re figuring out how to fill your evenings, relearning what family dinner looks like, or simply sitting with the ache of missing your child, your experience is valid. Just as our kids are stepping into new chapters, we are, too.

For the Parents of Commuters or Kids Staying Home

If your child is commuting to college, working, or staying home while they sort out their next steps, you can still create a sense of “new chapter.” One way we’ve done this in our family is with a room refresh in early September. A few new touches — fresh bedding, a new lamp, or even a small desk makeover — can give their space a “dorm at home” vibe. And here’s a bonus tip: if you wait until after Labor Day, most dorm and back-to-school essentials go on sale. It’s a simple way to mark the transition, give your child a sense of independence, and remind them that their path is just as important.

The Bigger Picture

Every child’s road to adulthood is unique. While college remains a solid route for many, it’s not the only path to a fulfilling life. As parents, our role is to keep showing up — with encouragement, recognition, and love — as they carve out lives that are authentically their own. So go ahead — mark the moment, share the story, or simply look your child in the eye and tell them how proud you are. They deserve it!

Embracing the New Season: More Than Just Back to School

Every year, late summer slips quietly into fall. The calendar fills with school supply lists, changing schedules, and the first hints of cooler air. For many, this time signals the back-to-school rush. But even for those without kids heading back to the classroom, the shift is real. There’s something about this season—a pause after summer’s activity—that nudges us into a new routine.

The energy changes as vacations wind down and days grow shorter. After the hum of summer, now is a chance to catch your breath. This season invites everyone, not just parents, to pause and look ahead with fresh eyes. You may feel a quiet urge to shift gears, shake up habits, or go after fresh goals. Leaving behind the busyness of summer can bring a sense of space.

Starting a new routine doesn’t have to mean radical change. It can be as simple as waking up a few minutes earlier, trying a new recipe, or repurposing a corner of your home for quiet time. The key is to notice the rhythm change. Let yourself lean into it. Maybe you crave downtime after a packed summer, or maybe you’re itching for the structure school brings—even if no one at your house is loading up a backpack.

This transition offers more than a calendar change. It’s a reset for your mind and body. If you find yourself wanting clarity or a fresh start, now is the perfect time. Ask yourself: How could this season bring you the space you need?

The Importance of Starting from a Place of Calm

Before making any plans or jumping into new routines, start from calm. It sounds simple, but our days often throw us straight into action. It’s easy to march from one task to the next without taking a moment to regroup. That quick pace might get things done, but it rarely leaves room for peace or clear thinking.

Building calm into your routine can slow the swirl. When you choose calm as your base, you cut out some noise and distractions that keep you from making better choices. Many find that taking a few minutes for quiet or breathing helps settle the mind, opening the way for real clarity.

Benefits of finding calm:

• Reduces stress and lowers anxiety
• Sharpens focus for better decision-making
• Supports overall emotional and physical health
• Makes it easier to handle changes in daily plans
• Strengthens resilience during tough seasons

Think about what happens when you run on autopilot, moving from one thing to the next. Without space to breathe and pause, tension builds. Your brain can get stuck on problems or frustration. Over time, the stress leaks into other areas, making friendly conversations almost nonexistent or shrinking your patience.

Our culture rewards busyness. But what if you challenged that? What if, instead, you chose calm first and then let your actions follow? Let your new routine start from a place of peace—not pressure. Even five minutes of calm in the morning can set up your whole day differently.

“You have to give yourself some space before you can see what’s next.”

Start your week by asking: What would change if I began by relaxing?

Reflecting on Relaxation: What Does It Really Feel Like?

It’s easy to say, “I need to relax.” But do you know what relaxation feels like for you? Many adults find this question hard to answer. Most of us can name stress quickly, but the last real moment of calm or pure relaxation? That’s tougher.

What does it feel like for you to relax? Maybe your shoulders drop. Your breathing gets slower. Your stomach unknots, and your thoughts slow down. These moments are different for everyone, but the effect is always softer and gentler.

When was the last time you genuinely felt relaxed? Think about that moment. Was it during a quiet walk, after finishing a good book, or in the middle of a favorite hobby? Pinpointing these pockets of peace can help you repeat them.

If you struggle to recall, that’s okay. Try this:

• Take five minutes each night to jot down anything that felt calming in your day.
• Look for patterns or triggers in your journal entries.
• Note what activities, people, or places seem to help you settle.

Recognizing relaxation is important for well-being. When you know what calm feels like, you can work to find it again. You can also notice faster when it’s missing.

Quote to remember: “It all starts with knowing what relaxed feels like before you can return to it.”

Understanding the Opposite: Recognizing When We’re Not Relaxed

Awareness is powerful. Sometimes, to understand how important this space is, you must notice its absence. Stress shows up in our bodies and minds as tension, restlessness, or even physical pain.

If you can’t remember the last time you felt relaxed, think instead about stress. When did you last feel tense or overwhelmed? These signs might not be dramatic, but they are clues your mind and body need a break.

Common signs you’re not relaxed:

1. Racing thoughts that won’t slow down
2. Tight shoulders, clenched jaw, or a stiff neck
3. Short temper or irritability with others
4. Feeling restless or unable to sit still
5. Trouble falling or staying asleep
6. Rushing from one task to the next, even when you don’t need to
7. Distractibility or trouble focusing

Noticing these feelings doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It’s an invitation. By paying attention, you give yourself the chance to choose a different way. Sometimes, naming the problem is the first and most important step toward change.

Try checking in with yourself. When you spot these signals, don’t power through. Instead, take a pause. Even just standing up, looking out a window, or taking a few deep breaths can help.

Understanding your own symptoms of stress can help you respond with more kindness and patience. Over time, this awareness builds a natural path back to calm.

Practical Steps to Transition into a New Routine with Peace

Moving from a busy summer into a calm fall doesn’t have to be complicated. Small, regular actions make a bigger impact than sweeping changes. Think simple, repeatable, and kind.

“Start where you are, and let peace set your next step.”

To help yourself move into a clearer, calmer routine, try the following steps:

Step-by-Step Guide for a Peaceful Transition

1. Pause first
   Each morning, take three to five deep breaths before anything else.
2. Notice your needs
   Ask yourself: What would feel peaceful or inspire moments of calm today? Listen to the answer.
3. Plan with intention
   Pick only one or two important things to focus on each day. Don’t overload.
4. Find pockets of rest
   Schedule short periods (even 5 minutes) where you put away screens and sit quietly.
5. Get moving
   Walk, stretch, or simply change your scenery midday. Gentle movement supports relaxation and focus.
6. Practice self-compassion
   If your routine falls apart, don’t judge. Recognize the setback and reset tomorrow.
7. Celebrate wins
   Notice and savor small moments of calm or success, no matter how tiny.

These steps can help you move through the start of a new season without feeling rushed or scattered. If it helps, write your own version of these steps and keep it somewhere you’ll see it each day.

Flexibility is key. Some days will go smoothly, others will not. The goal is not perfection, but more peace.

Reflective Prompts to Guide Your Transition

• Are you taking space to relax?
• What signals tell you it’s time to pause?
• How can you build calm into your everyday routine?

Keep these questions handy. Write them on a sticky note or in a journal. Refer to them as a gentle nudge toward more awareness and ease in your days.

Key Insights and Takeaways

• A new routine signals a chance for a personal reset. You don’t need school-age kids to benefit from this kind of shift.
• Calm is the best starting place. Planning actions is more clear and less overwhelming when grounded in peace.
• Identifying both relaxation and its opposite builds self-awareness. Know what both feel like in your own life.
• Simple steps make a difference. Pausing before acting, noticing tension, and allowing rest helps ease transitions.
• Self-compassion and flexibility matter. Not every day will be perfect, but each day can offer an opportunity for calm.

Resources

For further reading on calm routines and self-reflection, consider:

• “Atomic Habits” by James Clear (for building small habits)
• The Calm app or Headspace (for guided mindfulness practices)
• Guided journaling tools or blank notebooks

Action Steps

• Start your day with three to five slow breaths.
• Plan for one or two key tasks instead of filling your agenda.
• Use a journal to track small moments of peace or tension.
• Give yourself permission to pause, even for a minute.
• Check in regularly with the reflective prompts listed above.

Conclusion: Creating Space for Calm and Clarity

The start of a new season is a natural point for reflection. Take this opportunity, whether your life follows the school-year rhythm or not. Let calm be your foundation, even as things get busy again. Recognize both relaxation and stress and trust yourself to respond with care. Use simple steps and forgiving routines to shift into the fall with greater clarity.

Keep the helpful questions close to you. Let them nudge you toward more peace, clarity, and, above all, kindness to yourself in the weeks ahead.

Your new routine begins with one moment of calm. Make space for it—you deserve the reset.

What does calm look like for you in this season of life? And what’s one small change you could make this week to create more of it?

If you’re ready to start building more space for peace—without waiting for “perfect” conditions—listen to this week’s To Help You Heal episode: Making Space. We’ll walk through practical ways to find your own pockets of calm and set the stage for what’s next.

I am so sorry.

But before I go any further, maybe you could say #metoo, but you haven’t yet. You still feel too alone to do it. Too scared that no one will believe you. Maybe you tried to tell a friend but their doubt and questions brought a second wave of shame.

This is for you too.

I would’ve fought for you then.

And I will fight for you now.

What happened was NOT your fault. You didn’t do anything to bring this on. He did it. It was his choice. He tried to silence your voice and take away your right to the most personal parts of your being.

I can’t imagine how hard this is for you. The flashbacks. The fear. You remember where you were- the time and place. Similar places shake you to the core.

Maybe it was nighttime when he attacked you, and now you’re afraid of the dark. Maybe it was a public place and you’ll never go there again. You can’t drive past the place where it happened. You go out of your way to be sure you don’t get anywhere close. You don’t want to leave the house alone. It was someone you trusted, and now you don’t want to be touched or hugged. It’s hard to trust again. Maybe you sleep with the light on now.

You tried to tell your friend. She questioned you like you were on trial. And you’re left wondering why?

And then the guy went around telling everyone that you had sex with him. You lost your reputation, and his friends celebrated his conquest.

People say things to you like:

Are you sure you didn’t give him the wrong idea?

Didn’t you want him to ask you out anyway?

Are you sure you’re not making something up?

It’s probably because of the way you dress.

They are WRONG. They’re the ones with the problem. I’m not saying that I hope they walk your road, but I wish they could see it clearly.

You are a fighter. You fight this everyday. You wake up and choose to get out of bed and breathe.   You force yourself to leave the house even though you’d rather just stay home all day. Forever.

You’re good at making it look like there’s nothing wrong.

But all this stuff is exhausting.

You look over your shoulder constantly and you are vigilant. Some might call this obsessive, but it’s just personal protection. You replay it in your mind. It’s hard, unbelievably hard.

I can only imagine how hard it is.

But girl, I believe in you! I believe that there is so much more to your story. I believe that you’re going to LIVE everyday in opposition to his choices. His desire to silence you, his attempt to take away your voice and your choice, will not have the final say. You are brave. You are fierce and you will fight this all the way until the end. And you won’t just fight; you will OVERCOME! You’ve already developed a strength you never knew you had. I know you didn’t want to find it this way, but you have. And there’s such beauty in it. I don’t say that to justify anything. These aren’t empty words just to try to make you feel better. There’s no excuse for him. And I hope he’s held accountable to the highest degree of the law. But this is about you. And you’re allowing beauty to come from the ashes of your life. You’re doing it! And THAT, is simply amazing. Any good that comes is an opportunity to celebrate the success you’ve found in living and breathing and fighting. And that’s all YOU!

You inspire me.

You inspire others. I know that other girls are going to speak out because you were brave enough to do the same.

I’m always here for you.

I’ll listen. I’ll sit in silence with you in the parking lot at the mall while you try to decide if you can get out of the car. I know big places with lots of people scare you. If you want to walk in, we’ll go together. And if you’d rather just go home, well, that’s not defeat. You took the first steps!

I’ll drive you anywhere you need to go- the police, counseling…coffee. Just say when.

And then, when you’re ready to post #metoo, I’ve got your back. I’ll stalk your social media accounts and shut down anyone who has the audacity to prove their stupidity publicly. Because some of your “friends” will. You already know who they are.

And when you see him again I’ll be there. I will look him dead in the eye and I will burn a hole right through his retina with the intensity of my stare. My eyes will convey something I’m not allowed to say, and things I’m not allowed to do.

I’ve got your back. I’ll hold your heart. And I will walk with you through every last inch of this.

Because I believe in you.

And I hope you believe in you too.

As we begin our series on healing, it seemed like the best place to start wasn’t with a specific trial, but with the feeling that you just “can’t”.   Sometimes the problem is one BIG thing, but most often it’s not just the big stuff, it’s the entire pile of stuff! Life seems filled by a couple big things, some medium sized challenges and then all the little frustrations get added in. And it’s the little things that on their own would be no problem, when stacked with everything else, makes you feel like the whole world is out to get you. It seems like they come at you day after day in an attempt to drain the joy out of life and cause you to feel like you’ll never finish fighting.

I’m pretty sure you’re already envisioning your own past experiences dealing with exactly what I’m saying.

Sometimes you feel like you just can’t do it or deal with it anymore. And a millisecond behind that feeling is the knowing that things could be a lot worse and you don’t really have anything “that bad” going on. Then you kind of feel guilty for even thinking that you can’t do what’s right in front of you. And that just makes it worse. Haven’t we all been there?

Maybe it goes something like this—sick kids for days on end. You barely have time to wash the germs from one of them off your body before another one starts to come down with the same symptoms. And then there’s the additional laundry, special food requests, your regular job, childcare, housework, errands, your other kids who have practices and last minute projects, orthodontist appointments, and the husband you know you have but you haven’t actually seen or talked to in weeks because life is just this revolving door of exhaustion. We all have those seasons.

So what do you do when you wake up in the morning and force yourself out of bed, fighting hard against the desire to simply disengage and skip all this stuff? And how do you find God in it?   And what does he want you to find in this anyway?

What if all you’re supposed to find is him?

Here’s my take on struggles. He is not DOING this to you, but he is ALLOWING you to walk with him through it. Yes, walk with HIM through it. Life is hard. And there isn’t really an answer to that “Why?” question. Walking through the valley is grueling, and sometimes it seems like we’re there WAY too often and for FAR too long. But when we’re in the valley, we can’t stop walking.  We can’t set up camp and decide to stay. We simply have to keep going one step at a time. And in the desolate place, we find that we’re not really alone after all. We experience relationship with our father (God) in the valley that we wouldn’t have been able to see on the mountaintop. We find that he carries us when it’s hard; he encourages us when we doubt, and he strengthens us when we’re weak.

2 Corinthians 12:9 is a verse I lean into when I’m weak, And he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.” Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weakness, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me.” I’m reminded of the truth—I don’t have to be “strong enough”. I don’t have to fix it. I don’t have to force it. But I must engage his grace and receive his power.

The best way I’ve found to do this is through rest. Yes, I’m talking about all forms of rest. If you can go someplace quiet and lie down and focus your heart on God for at least 15 minutes, that’s fabulous. If it’s more of a place where you’re still doing the things you need to do, but you tell your mind to rest and you’re breathing in his peace, that’s great too. Cease. Stop. Breathe. We can’t put it off, and we can’t tell ourselves that we don’t need it or that we don’t have time for it. I don’t need to force myself to be stronger. I need his rest. You need his rest. We all need his rest! It’s ok to tell him that you can’t do this; he already knows.

“Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest.”

Matthew 11:28 

Resting is a challenge for me.  It does not come naturally. It’s hard for me to stop moving, both physically and mentally. But I’ve learned the value of rest. There have been TONS of moments where I have chosen not to engage his rest. I’ve pressed on and pushed beyond my limit. I’m not the only one who pays for that kind of mistake. My family pays. They feel it when I snap at them for one of those stupid reasons like spilling the contents of a cup or better yet, spitting the liquid that was in your mouth across the room because your brother made you laugh. Or when a bowl of cereal (and milk) goes cascading across the kitchen because one of my kids was being silly and thought they’d dance their way to the table. When a harsh word pops out of my mouth it hurts. It hurts them and it hurts me. I don’t want those moments. I want the grace filled ones where we can laugh and live and clean together. But in order to get to the those moments, I must choose rest.  I must surrender myself to that sacred place. It’s in those quiet moments where either my mind or body (or both) is still, that God speaks to me. His words—his love—change everything. My circumstances are exactly the same, but the way I see it, and myself, is different.

There are many good books on rest. And if you’re able, I’d encourage you to search out some of them. But there are times that you really don’t have any extra moments for reading aside from the Word, and if that’s you, there’s no pressure here. Just embrace God, and let him embrace you. Start with one small passage and read it over and over (for days and weeks if necessary) until it’s penetrated so far into your heart that it’s changing you.

[Place Your Life Before God ] So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you.

Romans 12:1-2 The Message

I totally understand that this looks different at different stages of your life. Most of the time, it looks a little different every day. Rest with a baby or toddler looks different than rest with teenagers. Rest when you’re working full time looks differently than rest for a stay at home mom, or a work at home mom. Not one of these places or seasons of life offers us an automatic place for rest. It is space that we must make though—it recharges our soul, it invigorates our mind, and resuscitates a faltering heart. He invites us to come, to lay our burdens before him and receive his rest.

So what are you waiting for? Rest. Yes, right now. At the very least, close your eyes, breathe him in, and breathe the weight out. Start with a simple prayer, “God I am weary. All this stuff is wearing me down. Show me how to find you, to find joy, and find myself. I know that you are with me. I need you right here, right now.”

Life is hard. We all find ourselves up against “it”. There are lots of things.

• A family member is diagnosed with cancer.
• Your child tells you that they were sexually assaulted.
• Your spouse leaves.
• Your kids are bullied.
• You are bullied (because let’s be honest, it happens to adults).
• Your dreams fall apart.
• You lose a friend to drug addiction.

This is just a short list. There are many other things that we go through that make us feel like we’re struggling to stay afloat in a sea of trouble. We can barely get to the surface long enough to catch our breath.

And that’s the problem. We feel like we’re fighting through, on our own, barely able to stay alive. There’s no one throwing us a life-preserver or helping us to shore. But here’s the truth—everyone is going through something. And most of the time, they don’t realize that we are too. If they do perceive our agony, the other problem is that they think they don’t know how to help. Let’s be honest, most of the time we don’t know how to help ourselves, which makes us feel incapable of helping someone else.

But the greater truth in all of this is that we are not alone. God is absolutely with us. He is fighting for us, and with us. He will equip us to not only survive, but to thrive despite our troubles. And when we learn how to do this, it gives us the ability to do the same for those around us.  We can offer that life-preserver we so desperately wanted to receive.

So what do you think? Think I’m totally out of my mind? Or do you agree with me? Maybe you’re somewhere in the middle, too burned out to truly believe that you’ll make it through, but too tired of fighting to surrender yourself to the thought that “this is all there is.” DON’T surrender. This stuff you’re fighting is NOT the end of your life. It’s not the end of beauty and joy and redemption that God has planned. The resurrection days are just beginning if we stand in faith and don’t give up.

David said it well when he wrote Psalm 25, verse 16 reads like the cry of a desperate heart: “Turn to me and be gracious to me, For I am lonely and afflicted.”  Here is what I know about God: he hears, he answers, and he comforts.  

Come with me on a journey this summer. We’ll talk about the hard stuff. And we will heal.

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The outrage directed at both the boy and his mother is stunning, and I will not remain silent. This is not acceptable.

In an age of technology where “once you’ve posted, you can’t take it back”, I’m shocked by countless posts and comments that have the potential to follow and harass this family forever. There are many people saying that the mother deserved to die. There are other posts suggesting that the child should’ve battled it out in a “survival of the fittest” showdown with the gorilla. Anger is everywhere, and it’s outrageous. Everyone knows “this”. People at the grocery store where this family shops know this, neighbors know this, people on the other side of the world know this—everyone knows.

Can you imagine the kind of thoughts racing through the mother’s mind as her son starts kindergarten in the days ahead? Forget the typical nervousness. She’ll wonder if the classmates’ parents are the ones who thought she deserved death, or worse yet, if they felt like her son deserved to die.

It doesn’t stop there. Think about this boy. Imagine that 5 years from now attends a classmate’s jungle-themed birthday party. One of the other partygoers has heard his parents talk at home. He makes a comment that this child can’t wear the gorilla party hat because he’s a “gorilla killer”.

What about 10 years from now when this boy is working on a research paper for school and stumbles across the sensationalism of this story. It hits him in a fresh way because he’s older and he can grasp the reality that everyone, everywhere knows, and that they hated him. You’ve told him that his mother is an “unfit parent” and you hated her too. Why is that ok?

He’s going to read your comments. They’re going to take up residence in his heart and mind. You have the ability to impact his future. And you’re telling him that his life is worth less than that of a gorilla.

I hope you never have to understand what it’s like to have your child text you from school to say that they can’t go to class, they are in the bathroom crying, completely destroyed by a social media post from a classmate about the event that happened in their life 10 years before. As you read their text you can barely breathe. Your heart breaks into a million little pieces. You want to run straight to that bathroom and bring them home and never send them back into the “real world”. But you can’t do that. You work through the aftermath of this situation. But it’s changed you, and it’s changed your child.

Your words carry weight. Your words shape lives—they have the power to uplift or to destroy. Choose wisely.

Don’t get me wrong, this life (all of it), is a gift. But sometimes I forget that, especially this time of year.

And then my mental stamina takes a nose-dive, and my thoughts follow along that downward spiral. My head fills up with all the stuff I’m not doing enough of, the extra time I do not have, and all the ways I’m failing. And you know where that goes. I become a miserable Israelite, wandering in the wilderness, full of complaints.

But I have a choice. I can choose to regain perspective.  I can choose to realign my “to-do list” with God’s call upon this season. I can choose to look for the things that may seem good, but are not good choices right now.

And then I can take a deep breath, and pray, and start over. I can begin again with a faith-filled focus on God’s amazing grace and his ability to give me more than enough.   “Come to Me, all you who are weary and heavy laden, and I will give you rest.”  I accept His invitation.  

I’m not just talking about physical death. I’m talking about the death of hopes and dreams, death of desires and passions: the death of the heart. Let’s be honest with each other—sometimes externally we’re entirely alive but inside we are absolutely dead.

And there’s probably a very understandable reason (or perhaps a whole list) that explains why we are dead. While important to our condition, the reasons are not the focus of what happens next.

Think about the whole focus of Easter and ask yourself this question, “What does God do with death?” And hear the answer, full of love and tenderness, “He brings life.”

Jesus chose death.

His family, his friends, his followers, and even his enemies all thought it was over.  But God wasn’t finished, because he does something incredible with death.

He brings life.

And that gives me hope. Because I know death. I know human death and I know the kind of death that tries to creep in and suffocate. If we’re honest, we all know the kind of death that tries to steal our hopes and dreams. The “death” that wants us to give up. But I’m telling you that you have a choice. Don’t give up! Hang firm on this belief: death is not the end—it’s a new beginning.

Jesus didn’t stay dead. God had this incredible redemption plan for Jesus and he has one for us too. Resurrected life. Jesus lay in the tomb 3 days. To those on the outside it looked like everything was over. But, deep inside that tomb, there was something remarkable happening.

And that very same remarkable thing happens in our lives.

Jesus rested in the Father’s hands for 3 days. And then came the RESURRECTION! He came out of the tomb and was practically unrecognizable. He had to prove who he was by his scars.

And I promise you this: God still has the same plan. The answer to death is always life. When some piece of our life dies, God asks us to place ourselves in his hands and rest. In that place of rest he breathes life over us. He restores our soul, he renews our mind and he revives our heart. But that won’t happen unless we let go and rest.

So maybe this Easter week you find yourself in this very place. You’re broken, beaten and the weight of life is crushing you.  Maybe you’ve come here unexpectedly or perhaps you saw it coming. How you arrived doesn’t matter. Why you’re dead inside doesn’t matter. What matters is that death is not the end and this IS your time for life.

If that’s you, then I’m asking you to be intentional to the place of surrender. Lay aside the deadness and your perception of personal responsibility and circumstantial disappointment. Simply rest in your Father’s embrace. Allow him to renew you from the inside out, and stay as long as it takes.

His plan for you is LIFE, and it’s going to be glorious! When you come out of this tomb, you (and probably others) will only recognize the “you that used to be” because you still have the scars. The scars are a reminder of what was, but now life takes center stage in the radiance of hope restored and dreams revived. RESURRECTION! Faith and passion become focused determination to live this “redemption story”.

But you have to make the choice to believe that death is not the end. It’s a choice to embrace surrender. And yes, this choice costs something, but the blessings far outweigh the cost.

Life is captivating, and it’s coming for you. Love. God’s love. It’s coming for you. Open your heart and get ready. It’s time for resurrection.

God is real, he is alive, and his love brings us to life!

Look for it.  Seek it out.  On the gray days, dig deep, keep your eyes wide, and refuse to believe that celebration is not meant for you.

Why?

Maybe you’re in the midst of a struggle and can’t find it.  But Jesus is celebrating you. He’s cheering you on.  He rallies to your side.  He sees your struggle and your fierce determination.  You haven’t given up. You are loved.   And that’s reason to celebrate.

I think about all the people I’ve lost and what I miss the most are not the huge “party type” moments.  No, it’s the little ones.  I miss the moments that seemed insignificant- the moments that I wouldn’t have thought I’d remember years later.  But I do.  I miss the quiet celebration in my heart over 5 minute phone calls with my dad about nothing.  We simply talked about the day. And simplicity didn’t seem significant then, but it does now.

So I will celebrate- with good food, hard work, and satisfying rest.  I will celebrate with laughter over funny youtube videos and “minion speak” with my kids.  I will celebrate with 5 minute conversations and holding hands.

And in that place of celebration, my heart is satisfied.